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Here we are in arguably the best moment of our entire lives – motherhood – and we can’t even enjoy it because we’re too riddled with guilt to do so.Β Whether it’s the perfect supermom making you feel guilty, your spouse or even yourself, it is time to stop it right now.Β It is time to build each other and ourselves up.Β And I’ll go ahead and let you in on a little secret, there is NO perfect mom.Β Okay, so there may be some who are in amazing shape and spend countless hours with their kids each day.Β Β But, maybe they have a messy house and are stressing about that (or hiring a housecleaner!) and about not having free time to themselves since their children were born.Β My point??Β The grass always looks greener on the other side (and on instagram!) But it’s not, it’s just not.Β Every mom is struggling with something and second guessing some aspect of her life, possibly including mothering.
In honor of mothers day and all the amazing moms out there (yes, every single one of you), I wanted to shareΒ 5 reasons to stop the mom guilt now.Β Seriously, just stop it.Β We are WAY too hard on ourselves.Β Β Let’s stop beating ourselves up and enjoyingΒ the entire journey of motherhood.
1.Β It is completely counterproductive.Β The more time we spend feeling guilty, the less time we actually have to spend just loving on and enjoying our children.Β And then what happens?Β Honestly, I end up feeling even more guilty for missing out even more.Β It’s a vicious cycle.Β All they want is our love and attention.Β We are all just trying to do the best we can!Β And that means spending time with our kids, working, cooking, cleaning, spending time with our spouses, family and friends and then trying to actually have a little free time to ourselves too.Β It’s a balancing act.Β There will never be enough time, just try to focus on quality time because that’s what matters!Β When you’re there, try to be truly there.
2.Β It is actually good for them to be with other friends and family sometimes.Β So you asked your mom to babysit your child twice this week??Β See number 1 again.Β There are not enough hours in the day, and it is SO important to still have dates and spend some alone time with your spouse or even some time doing something that is just for yourself, like a hobby.Β And honestly, it is good for them to spend some quality time with family too, so don’t feel guilty asking grandma to babysit occasionally; your child will love it just as much as grandma will!
3.Β We are all human, and we need to show our children this too.Β So you finally yelled at your child for the first (orΒ 539th time.)Β It happens.Β Β ItΒ may be the first time, and it won’t be the last time.Β But the good take away is thatΒ it ‘sΒ the perfectΒ time to teach your child that everyone makes mistakes, even adults.Β You apologize, forgive and forget, and let them know how much you love them and you just want to teach themΒ right from wrong.Β They need to hear you say sorry too to learn how to say sorry themselves.
4.Β Β Having a little time to yourself actually helps make you a better parent I think.Β Ever heard that absence makes the heart grow fonder?Β Well, my mom told me this almost daily, and it is so true about most things in life.Β I’m not saying leave your newborn in their crib crying for an hour straight.Β Definitely don’t.Β I’m just saying that we shouldn’t feel guilty for working on our laptop for 30 minutes one afternoon instead of playing tea party.Β The truth is that sometimes we have to work for a few minutes.Β Having time to ourselvesΒ resets our batteries and helps to make usΒ more patient, and better parents in my opinion.Β I would rather give her my undivided attention in 30 minutes than play tea party with her while having work on my mind and not being able to give her my all.Β I would rather be in the moment withΒ Leighton.
5.Β It’s good for our children to spend a little time doing independent play.Β Leighton is an only child, so we rarely get time alone.Β She doesn’t have any siblings to entertain her, and it shows.Β Even at preschool, she rarely plays with other kids.Β She wants to play with the adults instead.Β I want her to be aΒ strong well-rounded child, and that means playing with other kids,Β entertaining herself, and also wanting to spend time with her family.Β I want her to be able to adapt in this crazy and ever-changing world.Β And I feel like it’s my job to help give her the tools to adapt and make it in the world.Β Β A little time playing alone it good for her, and I’ll be thereΒ 5 minutes later when she comes back and jumps at my waist and says mama, mama, hold me!Β = )Β I will always be there, and that is what I want to teach her.Β I want to encourage her to step out and test her feet inΒ the water a little, but know that I will be there to help and protect her too.
Leighton and I took these pictures in South Bluffs in Memphis just a couple weeks ago.Β As soon as we finished, it literally started pouring down raining!Β I was so glad we were able to get some sweet pictures together just in time to go eat a little lunch at Lyfe Kitchen while it came pouring down.Β I fell in love with Leighton’s pretty little dress the moment I saw it.Β I loved the pretty pastel green color with the fun andΒ vibrant geometric shapes on it.Β And of course, we can’t forget her adorable little Saltwater sandals.Β HerΒ entire outfit is from Tea Collection.Β If you haven’t heard of Tea Collection yet, prepare yourself, you will be obsessed.
Tea Collection is a globally inspired children’s clothing line, and their current collection is inspired by Australia.Β Β They want to helpΒ kids discover the world and learnΒ that no matter where we live or what language we speak, there is so much we all have in common. Β Every purchase at Tea Collection gives back to the Global Fund for Children.Β Make sure you use code WIMIHH to save $25 off a $50+ full priced order at Tea Collection now through Β May 14.Β Valid for new customers only.Β Valid through May 14 at 11:59pm PT.Β Does not include Patagonia, Saltwater or Livie & Luca.Β Discount taken will be pre-tax.Β No adjustments on previous purchases.Β Not redeemable for cash.Β Cannot be used towards the purchases of gift cards.Β Limited stock on hand.Β Do you have mom guilt?Β What are your best tips at dealing with it?Β Are you as obsessed with Tea Collection as we are?
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Love this post!! Mom guilt is so real and so useless! Being is a mom is both the best and hardest thing ever and we are all doing out best. No reason to compare or be negative, just encourage!
Amy Ann
Straight A Style
Such a great post! I know a few friends that struggle with this. I'm going to share your article with them. Have a great day!
xx Leah / http://www.eatpraywearlove.com
While I don't have any kids (yet) my friends always talk about mom guilt. It is real. Love your outfits!
xo Jessica
http://www.whatsfordinneresq.com
Thanks for sharing! I am not a mom yet, but still found this helpful! Love your outfits too!
You're so beautiful! I love that bag, so cute <3
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Beautiful pictures of you and your girl! I think it's been so much easier with my second set of babies…the first two turned out okay so I stopped worrying so much that I was screwing them up. π
Love these tips! As a therapist, I especially approve. π
http://asequinloveaffair.com
I love this post! I love your tips, I tend to be really hard on myself. As a mom with a little with special needs I am always on panic mode, and feel like I am never doing enough. I feel guilty when I show the smallest of cracks and need me time. I shouldn't but I do.
I loved reading this post, especially the part about Independent play..because I always worry about that!
love this post and your tips! Mom guilt is so counterproductive. Leighton is so cute in her dress!
kileen
cute & little
This is such a great post and I can totally relate Laura. You and your daughter are as beautiful as ever. Such a great shoot. Leighton is lucky to have you as her mamma.
Such a great post lady! And y'all are looking as adorable as ever!
Love this post! I can't imagine the emotions you go through as a mother, but I'm sure everyone feels it! Happy Mother's Day!
xx Mollie
These pictures are way too cute!! And you have THE best hair!!
xo Kelsey | http://www.chasingcinderellablog.com
I'm only a few months away from actually learning what mom guilt is from my point of view! Love the post!
Xo, Nina
Law of Fashion Blog
You two are the cutest!!! That top is amazing! And you're so right! This is such a wise post. No one is perfect–not even a mom–and that's okay.
Lovelovelove,
Erica
You two are the cutest duo! And your hair looks amazing!! Love this post so much π xo, Jaime Sunflowers and Stilettos
I love these photos!! You look so beautiful and I love when you post pics with Leighton!! She is sooo big!! Happy Mother's Day, friend!
I love the part about being human and not hiding that. When I am a mama someday, this is going to be my motto. It is SO important to be real with our kiddos!
I'll have to keep this in my back pocket for when this time comes! But I'm sure I have some sweet mama friends that I can share with until then.
xo Amanda John
http://strawberrychicxo.blogspot.com/
I'll have to keep this in mind for when I'm ready for little ones for sure!
xo, Alicia | AliciaTenise.com
I absolutely love those earrings!